The art of self-compassion is something that must be learned and accumulated over time. It’s easy to get in the habit of being overly critical or hard on yourself. As easy as it is, it’s also extremely destructive. Many people who are so hard on themselves often experience more anxiety, depression, and a low self-worth. In order to be compassionate with yourself, you have to be empathetic. This means, acknowledging your struggles without judgment. In addition, this doesn’t mean feeling sorry for your lot in life. Rather, it’s a healthy acknowledgment of pain.
A good way to look at being compassionate with yourself is to imagine how you would deal with a friend who was expressing negative thoughts about themselves. Likely, you would feel empathy for their pain and suggest positive things about them to increase their self-love. You should be doing the same for yourself if you want to develop self-compassion.
If you’re struggling with this concept and want to learn how to be self-compassionate, consider these five habits to implement today.
1. Be kind to yourself
This is so important when it comes to developing self-compassion. Sometimes we feel as if we have to challenge ourselves to take on everything just to prove something to ourselves or others. This could mean working 12 hours a day or pushing yourself too hard in the gym. Whatever it is, it’s not being productive. In fact, it’s destroying your health. Instead of trying to challenge yourself to the extreme, do what feels right. Listen to your body and act in accordance with it. By eliminating this extra pressure, you’ll find yourself healthier and happier.
2. Give yourself time to rest
In addition to over-exerting ourselves, we may also feel like we have to do everything, all at once. This means neglecting sleep, hobbies and recreation. If you want to develop self-compassion, you have to give yourself time to restore. Schedule time each day to do nothing. Whether it’s binge watch your favorite TV show or just rest your eyes for a bit, find some time to rest. You’ll find that you’ll have more energy to engage in your responsibilities.
3. Practice affirmations
Self-affirmations are a great tool to implement into your daily life. Practice repeating to yourself all of your positive qualities every day. This could be in the form of writing or speech. Whatever you decide to do, keep at it. By repeating these positive words, you’re training your mind to be kind to yourself. This helps to eliminate negative and overly critical thinking.
4. Don’t focus on the negatives
In addition, it can be hard to have faith in yourself when you’re constantly thinking negatively. Therefore, switch the narrative of your thoughts. Instead of saying, “I could never do that” say, “I am going to be patient with myself while I learn this new task.” This is giving you the power to make mistakes without judgment. In addition, focus on what a situation is trying to teach you. This will help you to avoid feeling like a victim and revitalize your power.
5. Practice self-care
Self-care is one of the most important aspects of self-compassion. Indulge in activities that make you happy. Whether that’s reading a good book or watching your favorite television show. whatever it is that makes you feel happy and confident, do it. Setting aside time for yourself isn’t selfish. In fact, it’s necessary for regaining your strength. Schedule some time each week that is dedicated only to caring for yourself.
Practicing self-compassion takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself on this journey. Remember, you’re re-shifting your mind. You’ll begin to notice an instant boost of confidence when you start owning this power.
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