In this busy world today, we are always in a hurry. Due to this hurry, we are always competing with each other and in the process, it is definite that one will win and the other will lose. When one achieves something or wins, he or she gets a feeling of highness, whereas when he or she loses, he or she feels doomed or becomes pessimistic. It is a known fact that on this earth when the sun rises in one part of this hemisphere, the other part is in darkness, when one hemisphere is Summer, the other is Winter. The same fact applies to life too, there are both sorrows and pleasures in life.
Thus, life is like a boat sailing on the sea that always does not flow smoothly. A baby is thumped to cry when it is born because only then its lungs begin to function. In fact, tears are as necessary for a person as oxygen itself. In excessive happiness, tears trickle down your cheeks – tears maintain a healthy balance in life. If a person does not realize the pain or suffering of life, then he cannot understand the joy of life. To him, the sense of proportion gets lost. Therefore, often out of pleasure rises pain to strike a balance.
Every person must accept the pains of life, to understand the real meaning of joy. Otherwise, you cannot feel the joy. As autumn must come in the course of a year, similarly sorrows invariably follow every human being. If a person suffers pain, then the tears that flow out of his or her eyes softens the taut and tense strings of his heart and mind. In fact, the mist over the mind disappears in the form of tears and calmness dawns there. When my Father died, the Pastor told us that it was ok to cry because crying lets the sadness out.
Some people have the notion that life is only about suffering. These types of people forget the happiness they enjoyed in the past. Their blurred eyes get short sighted and they forget the basic law that happiness will revisit them again in the future. The basic law of life is that happiness and sorrow co-exist with one another. Without one, the other is useless. Thorns of life serve as a fence to protect the flowers of delight and sunlight. Even, Shelley – the great English poet said, “Our sweetest songs are those that tell of saddest thought.”
In fact, comedy and tragedy make the yin and yang of life. All the patterns of experience are woven with these contrasting threads. Even in scriptures, it is written to take joys and sufferings placidly without any hesitation. He is exhorted not to be overly happy when success visits him and not to fear when pains and misery affect him. The greatest of men on earth, all have suffered both pleasure and pain. This is life and you have to derive pleasure from life in this way.
As the Frankie Ballard song says “The bad times make the good times better… And we all have faith, and we all have hope, But we’re all a little lost in the same damn boat. It’s a helluva life, yeah it’s a helluva life.”
Life – good or bad is what we choose to make it!