Welcome to the 10-week series on recognizing some of the more common signs that you are lacking in the self-care department and ways to improve your self-care. Over this course, we will explore some of the red flags that, if they apply to you, indicate you need more self-care, including:
- Always tired
- Often sick
- Constantly feeling overwhelmed
- Quick to get snappy
- Dependant on crutches like coffee, chocolate, or alcohol
- Not having time to exercise
- Decrease in social contacts
- Not eating healthy
Why is it that we are the last person we help? We are always there to help friends, co-workers and family members when asked, but by spreading our self so thin, we don’t have any “me-time” left for our own self-care. And if you happen to be a caregiver, it is even worse.
Regardless of how gregarious a person you are, we all need some time alone that we can call our own. Whether it is soaking in a hot bath sprinkled with a few drops of lavender essential oil, with a lit candle, soft music and sipping on a glass of wine, or doing some therapy shopping, having some alone time and doing what you enjoy is one of life’s little pleasures.
But what is frequently the case, is we run ourselves ragged, collapse in our bed at night and then lie awake thinking about all the things we must do tomorrow. And when tomorrow comes, we get up and do it all over again. And because we are durable people, we can get away with doing this for a while, but eventually it will catch up with us.
And then what happens when you go down – especially if you are a caregiver for a person? Who is going to take care of them while you are down?
So, the better plan is to be selfish, and carve out some me-time in your day for you. It is a win/win for everyone!
That wraps it up for this first lesson. In the next lesson, we will talk about why self-care is so important. Be sure to read that one next Tuesday.